Work-life balance eluding you? There's a good reason...
March 10, 2016
I'll share with you the enlightenment I received a couple of weeks when an email showed up in my inbox from the Thirst 4 Function guys who will be opening my eyes to new ways of treating patients this weekend on their course this weekend.
They use body movements to identify where the problems lie and tweak these movements to gain an improvement in movement and a reduction in pain. I think - I'll find out in a couple of days.
They took that principle while thinking about people's need to find the promised 'work-life balance' and they made me feel better in just one email!
What Chris at Thirst 4 Function has realised is that the idea that there is just the right amount of time to be working and then the rest of the time is for living life, is bonkers.
Firstly, we can enjoy working and unfortunately, working is living so we should try to enjoy it, even if it's just the structure it might bring to our week, or the interaction with other people, let alone what we might learn along the way and how much we might be challenged. If you don't enjoy work then I beg you to try and change that. Spending so much or your life doing something you don't enjoy to earn a living will certainly affect your perception of your work-life balance and how much enjoyment you derive from life in general.
Secondly, and this was my lightbulb moment... there isn't a static state of equilibrium. Your demands in life will change. Sometimes you may need to work longer hours, whether it's because your team needs all hand on deck or because you need some overtime to pay for some house maintenance. Sometimes you may need to spend some hours of your social life caring for another or travelling to see someone.
The key to this is that it's dynamic. Life changes. If you have a baby, you'll (without a doubt!) get less sleep, perform under par, have priorities other than work while you get past the initial shock and massive changes a baby brings. But perhaps when that baby is a teenager and meeting up with their own friends, you might be feeling a little lost and unfulfilled and want to find new challenge at work or by trying a new sport. This changes constantly, whether you have a child or not but I think the baby illustrates it well!
Family, friends, work, exercise, pointless activities that are just fun.... you won't have equal parts of each in your life all of the time. So if you're constantly striving for balance, you'll feel like you're underachieving.
You're not. You're living. And living is a dynamic state so ride it out and tweak it here and there to make it as fulfilling as you can at that time in your life.
Don't spend it striving for something you won't ever attain!